Wisdom for my Sons

Month: July, 2012

The drive to excel. 4.21.11 & 6.3.12

Trust = speech + action alignment. 2.3.11 & 7.25.12

Freedom and boldness. 8.14.11 & 7.25.12

Cycles are an economic reality. 8.12.11 & 7.24.12

Nothing new under the sun. 12.14.10 & 7.23.12

What to look for in a wife. 7.6.11 & 7.20.12

Redeem and restore. 7.18.12

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Redeem and restore. 7.18.12

"A faithful embodiment of the gospel in our own cultural settings demands that we discern between the creational structure and design in all things and the religious misdirection and rebellion that pervert God’s good world." -Living at the Crossroads by Goheen & Barholomew

What is the purpose of a Christian’s life? Glorify God…great! Got it…right answer, but what does that practically look like day in day out. What is our playing field? What is the cosmic end of God’s plan? Where are we at in the Gospel story? What are the marching orders? How do we know what defines faithful? Macro, big picture, biblical context is so desperately needed to understand the proper direction and purpose for the Christian life as designed by God. The active daily process of glorifying God pushes back the effects of the Fall (sin), working to redeem and restore all facets of life to look and function more like how God originally designed and created them to. Action. My sons, this is why we exist…our life purpose. The grand story is not about us. We the supporting cast highlighting the main character; God. True authentic life purpose and passion is found in this missional and worldview alignment. Each day keep it simple in your mind: redeem & restore. Our purpose is to daily work to redeem and restore our relationships, our families, our attitude, our work culture, our work quality, our thoughts, our heart motives, our speech, our health, etc…so people can see Jesus-God’s presence in our life. Our lives will give brief glimpses and evidence of His original design of how life was created and intended to function…ultimately glorifying Him.

Oh and by the way, just to be real…in the first two minutes of today, I unfairly let my anger get the best of me spanking you more out my impatience and immaturity than your minor act of disobedience. I do apologize, for I am the first to fail here and confess the hypocrite in even writing this to you today. Please know this is the desired aim… and it frustrates me greatly how much I miss on this throughout each day. There is great rest in our need for a Savior, knowing this side of heaven we will never be perfect, although improving and advancing as God daily works out His salvation in our lives.


Prayer-Simple and honest. 7.17.12

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Prayer-Simple and honest. 7.17.12

"Here’s what I want you to do: Find a quiet, secluded place so you won’t be tempted to role-play before God. Just be there as simply and honestly as you can manage. The focus will shift from you to God, and you will begin to sense his grace. (Matthew 6:6 MSG)

But when you pray, go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you. (Matthew 6:6 ESV)

What is the right way to pray? How do we know when our heart and motive is right in the words we pray to God? What great instruction…First, find a quiet place alone, so as to be real and authentic removing the temptation and pressure to role-play "the super-spiritual, deep prayer guy." Then, just communicate as simply and honestly as possible, for this spirit will remove any focus from self to God…allowing Him to work, rewarding us with His grace and presence. Action. My sons, in life our pride, even in the very best of things, puts pressure on us to perform and role-play. Prayer with God is something divinely special…very hard to function intimately and honestly in public, for our concern for self will always get in the way. Cultivate the lifelong habit of communing with God privately, always seeking to be authentic…simple and honest in speech. Do this and you will be a blessed man experiencing Gods rich reward of His grace-filled presence.

The modern day gold digger. 7.16.12

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The modern day gold digger. 7.16.12

Don’t dissipate your virility on fortune-hunting women, promiscuous women who shipwreck leaders. (Proverbs 31:3 MSG)

What wisdom from the mom warning her son the king, for she knew his position of leadership and influence would bring with it certain unique challenges. I have always wondered what would drive a woman to pursue a man for reasons other than love, yet of course, realizing idols and pride exist for them as well. Pride and its desire for beauty, wealth, power and fame reveal themselves in unique ways for certain woman especially in high performance cultures and environments. Their personal idols draw them to positions and environments of power, wealth and influence. Action. My sons, beware as you experience varying degrees of success in life and differing positions of power and influence, for you will begin to notice a certain type of woman beginning to circle the environment. Steer clear of this type of woman for they are very dangerous…aggressive in their pursuit being driven heavily by their own prideful idols and insecurities. Don’t be naively flattered and led astray, see whats really going on…they are drawn to the position or idea of you; not who you really are…any man fills that roll for them. They are so dangerous, shipwrecking leaders and destroying lifetimes of work. Blessed men seek to wisely steer clear always being aware of their settings and the motives driving those around them.

Be an encourager. 1.17.11 & 7.12.12

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Be an encourager. 1.17.11 & 7.12.12

Worry weighs a person down; an encouraging word cheers a person up. Proverbs 12: 25

One of the greatest truths is knowing that each person we encounter on a daily basis is carrying unique burdens, whether evident or not…because life can be hard on us all. Given that truth, we as believers have hundreds of opportunities a day to bring a fresh wind of hope into others lives, cheering them up. Whether it’s just a smile, an uplifting nickname or a speaking to of strengths, etc. The redeeming nature of the gospel can be applied in every human encounter, both creatively and authentically. This requires our heart being free and secure enough to truly desire the best for everyone we meet…reflecting the hopeful, loving character of God. Action. My sons, decide early in life to cultivate the habit of being an encourager, searching out how to strategically and authentically bless others in each human encounter. Not only will people receive hope, but you’ll discover that you’ll receive far more in return by enjoying the expanding blessing and fruitfulness of relationships how God originally designed them to flourish.