Wisdom for my Sons

Month: September, 2011

Patience and forgiveness, a mark of maturity 9.30.11

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Patience and forgiveness, a mark of maturity 9.30.11

Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense. Proverbs 19:11

A secure, wise man is slow to anger and has a life marked with forgiveness of wrongs. Patience and mastery of anger is a mark of maturity…showing that a man is of a calm peaceful heart. Holding grudges bring nothing positive…instead quickly forgive and move on. For holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die…for grudges kill only the one that harbors them. Action. My sons, Desire to be a patient man who is slow to anger, realizing that outbursts give evidence of immaturity of character.


What to look for in a wife. 9.29.11

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What to look for in a wife. 9.29.11

Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God. This is how the holy women of old made themselves beautiful. They trusted God and accepted the authority of their husbands. (1 Peter 3:3-5 NLT)

Happy wife…happy life! It’s so cliche, but so true…when home base is good, everything else can be falling apart in life for a man still has a peaceful shelter from the storm. On the other hand messed up wife, messed up life is true as well…for the rest of life can be thriving, but a man has no place to rest and share in the victories, for home base is a battlefield. A man reaps what he sows, depending what he looks for and values in a prospective wife. The verse above instructs the wife to not to be so focused on outward beauty but instead the inner beauty of the heart for that is what effects everything in the home. Action. My sons, beauty fades with time…when you are looking for a wife, you will of course be attracted to her, but make sure you asses if she has a gentle, quiet spirit; trusts the Lord and acknowledges and respects the authority and role of the husband. These seem like small issues when not married, but they are foundational pillars that make or break a marriage. A wise, blessed man looks for these qualities in a future wife..the fool admires external beauty far above internal beauty and pays an expensive price down the road for that decision.

The desire to learn is everything. 9.28.11

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The desire to learn is everything. 9.28.11

Wise men and women are always learning, always listening for fresh insights. (Proverbs 18:15 MSG)

What main overarching quality whether in business or personal life should one look for in finding the right person? The world would say education, recommendations, experience, resume…all great and valuable things. Yet I always think, what one factor most greatly predicts ones ability to thrive and flourish above the rest. I am becoming more and more convinced…ones internal drive to learn and understand is key. For that desire to learn is the only thing that can carry one through the discouragement and setbacks in life and career…for they truly want to learn, proving there is no end to their potential. Action. My sons, in life focus more intently on your character, fanning the flame of your desire to learn, don’t worry so much about a specific skill, for the skills of job and life are easily learned. It will be your character and desire to learn that will most greatly determine your ability to thrive. For all men are brought to breaking points in life and the ones that have a hunger to learn are the ones that make it through…some of the brightest minds in the world quit in their honorable pursuits for their drive and motives hinge far too much on the ebb and flow of results. The desire to grow in wisdom is pure and God honoring, carrying a man through.

Pursue Generosity 9.27.11

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Pursue Generosity 9.27.11

Give freely and become more wealthy; be stingy and lose everything. The generous will prosper; those who refresh others will themselves be refreshed. Proverbs 11: 24,25

It seems backwards, but in reality generosity secures increase, while hoarding does the opposite of it’s intended purpose…setting the stage for loss. God created money. He controls who it goes to and in what amounts… His purpose with money is that it would bless people so that they can in turn bless others…thus being an earthly representation of gods providing and generous character. A loving father would not give his son more of something that he is currently not faithfully stewarding, so it makes sense that generosity is the heart condition god is looking for. Action. My sons, Always be generous with money and resources focusing on the needs of others as great than your own…it is at this point that money becomes a true blessing. Be scared of hoarding because that is when money starts becoming a curse and a cause for great anxiety.

Everything has a specific purpose. 9.26.11

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Everything has a specific purpose. 9.26.11

God made everything with a place and purpose; even the wicked are included-but for judgment. (Proverbs 16:4 MSG)

Every single thing we see has been created for a specific place and purpose. That purpose is to reflect and glorify their divine creator. A biblical worldview begins to take true shape when a person starts seeing every detail of life and it’s connection to God. Creation big and small points to God, yet so does work, so does family, so do friends, so does business, so does money…all created by God to reveal aspects of his character. Even the wicked, those destined for hell, exist to point to Gods wrath and hatred for sin. Action. My sons, blessed living is cultivated in aligning every detail of your life with its Gods intend purpose. If it is a coffee meeting…reflect the character of God. It is a child laughing…smile at simplicity and joy of our faith. If it is a sun rise…thank God for his mercies being new each day. A blessed life sees God in all things…redeeming and pulling out the good purposes God designed into all things.

Good leaders…9.23.11

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Good leaders…9.23.11

Good leaders abhor wrongdoing of all kinds; sound leadership has a moral foundation. Good leaders cultivate honest speech; they love advisors who tell them the truth. An intemperate leader wreaks havoc in lives; you’re smart to stay clear of someone like that. Good-tempered leaders invigorate lives; they’re like spring rain and sunshine. (Proverbs 16:12-15 MSG)

Good leaders hate wrong doing and have a moral foundation. They cultivate honest speech and while appreciating the same in return. Bad leaders are intemperate lacking self control, while good leaders are in control of self, which in vigorates and inspires the lives of those around them. The presence of a good leader inspires hope like a spring rain or sunshine. Action. My sons, desire to be this type of man. For all men are leaders, its just that some are good and some are bad…always drawing others closer or further away from God, thru their lives and actions. In every human encounter seek to be a messenger of hope… for life is hard on us all, be that spring rain or sunshine in the lives of others and you in return will experience the same; for this reflects the character of our great messenger of hope…Christ.

Measure twice. Cut once. 9.21.11

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Measure twice. Cut once. 9.21.11

A word out of your mouth may seem of no account, but it can accomplish nearly anything-or destroy it! A careless or wrongly placed word out of your mouth can do that. By our speech we can ruin the world, turn harmony to chaos, throw mud on a reputation, send the whole world up in smoke and go up in smoke with it, smoke right from the pit of hell. (James 3:5, 6 MSG)

Measure twice, cut once is a great analogy in construction…for once something is cut it can never be put back together, so one better make sure the cut is where they want it. The thought process is the same for our mouth and the words we choose to speak. A wise man thinks twice about the words that come out of his mouth, for he knows the mouth is the source of greatest good or evil in the world. Once words are spoken they can never come back, so much like the wood, one better make sure they are accurate and true…measured and spoken correctly. Human speech God designed literally to accomplish anything or destroy everything…being the greatest source of blessing or cursing straight from pit of hell. Action. My sons, be very wise in the words you speak in life, think and measure your speech carefully, always seeking the encouragement and betterment of the listener. Your speech in life will either be the main source of great blessing and achievement or horrendous cursing and destruction…and it will all depend on if you view your words as a means of building up or tearingdown the world around you.

Male passivity is a disease. 9.20.11

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Male passivity is a disease. 9.20.11

Male passivity is a disease that robs a man of his purpose while it destroys marriages, ruins families, and spoils legacies. A passive man doesn’t engage; he retreats. He neglects personal responsibility. At it’s core, passivity is cowardice. -Dennis Rainey, Stepping Up

Male passivity is a disease that is destroying lives all over the place. It is sad, but as men we can easily misunderstand and misinterpret trusting God…thinking it as a passive, inactive state. Finding ourselves akward in taking initiative and responsibility for our lives and the lives of those around us. God ordains man with the primary task of taking inititive and dominion, subduing and cultivating their god given realms. This is the overarching purpose God has for the life of a man. Action. My sons flee pasivity in all areas of your life. It is a dangerous thief that will rob you of purpose, destorying the effectiveness of your life. Instead be strong and show yourself a man, taking responsibility for the God ordained task of redeeming and restoring all facets of your life, cultivating them so they look and function more like how God intended them to.

Where there is conflict, pride is present. 9.15.11

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Where there is conflict, pride is present. 9.15.11

Pride leads to conflict…. (Proverbs 13:10a NLT)

Humility is a virtue that is not very esteemed these days, especially in highly competitive environments of sports or business, for it is looked upon more as a weakness than strength. Yet from my observations, pride appears to always be the one obstacle that creates all the issues, no matter if it is personally or professionally. Where there is conflict pride is present, where there is peace humility reigns supreme. Action. My sons, in life when it comes to people, both personally and professional, pursue those with an authentic humble spirit and put distance between those who give evidence of a strong prideful spirit. Pride always creates conflict and will always be the derailing factor for the brightest minds and most talented people in any area of life. Diligently cultivate a true humble spirit in your life doing battle with pride, always viewing the needs of others as more important then your own.

Don’t try and be someone you’re not. 9.14.11

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Don’t try and be someone you’re not. 9.14.11

Successful careers are not planned. They develope when people are prepared for opportunities because they know their strengths, their method of of work, and their values. Knowing where one belongs can transform an ordinary person-hardworking and competent but otherwise mediocre-into an outstanding performer. -Peter Drucker, "Managing Oneself"

"Don’t try and be someone you’re not!"…the parental advice for kids, holds much truth throughout ones life. God designs and creates an individuals life with all their experiences, personality, strengths and weaknesses, etc…so how broken is it for us to look at others and try to function/be like someone else. We are destined for frustration and failure. Perhaps we are so lost in our own life, that we admire and cling what others do thinking maybe there lies the answer. When the answer is knowing who we are in Christ, how he created us and where he has sovereignly placed us. Action. My sons, be thoughtful and prayerful in discovering what you enjoy in life and where your strengths lie…don’t try to be like someone else for we are all created different. When it comes to a career do what you enjoy and are good at, don’t ever make a decision based on what a career pays…for that is a lifelong curse. True blessing and riches are enjoyed by men that work to uncover their designed niche in world seeking out joy and satisfaction in the daily process of their labor.